Bondage for Beginners

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Thinking about trying bondage for the first time? You certainly aren’t the only one, with more and more people being interested in trying out this fantastic kink.


Bondage is one of the easier components of BDSM culture to try for the first time, as many people may already enjoyed some bondage in the shape of handcuffs or retraining their partner to the bed. 

However, there is a lot more to bondage than meets the eye, and most beginners feel an understandable amount of trepidation when it comes to being restrained or restraining others. But bondage doesn’t need to be daunting for beginners - it can be an amazing experience when done right.

Knowing the various accessories to use, how to safely tie certain body parts, knowing each other’s preferences and limits, and avoiding any accidents are some of the main questions’ bondage newbies have. 

So, let’s take a closer look at the dos and don’ts of bondage for beginners to ensure you have the best (and safest) time possible!

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Establishing Consent 

As part of BDSM culture bondage often involves roleplay where one person is submissive and the other is dominating. With this, the lines of content are blurred, with safe words being used to establish limits when getting tied, spanked, tickled etc. However, it is a good idea for beginners to establish the level of consent during a bondage session before the even get started. For instance, if you want to start at a comfortable pace you should always make sure consent remains strict - no means no in these situations. You may want to add some roleplay aspect into these early sessions. For example, you can agree that there will be a certain degree of struggle involved for the person being restrained. Always establish all areas of consent with your partner before trying bondage. That includes who is being tied, who is submissive, if there is any roleplaying involved, whether there are safe words or straight-forward yes/no consent etc.

Safe Words 

While you may not be ready for safe words from the off-set many want to go in headfirst and really embrace the BDSM experience. For these situations its important to establish a clear safe word - or several safe words. A safe word is basically another word for saying no, stop, or slow down. Because there are different levels to bondage you may feel multiple safe words are a good idea, so try setting one for no, one for slow down, and one for stop. Your safe words shouldn’t be related to sexual activities either. Sometime entirely out of context often works best.

Understand the Body and it's Sensitives 

This is important in bondage for a few reasons. The first is because you should know what part of your partners body may suffer during the bondage, such as an area where the is a long-term injury or condition - think damaged knees, dodgy backs, weaker joints etc. Knowing this is important as you don’t want to cause unnecessary damage during when applying a restraint, which is only going to put you both off the experience if it exasperates a current problem area. Secondly, you need to be aware that some parts of the body are more sensitive to nerve damage than others. For instance, the knees and elbows are usually the most sensitive to damage, so be aware of this when applying restraints to reduce the chances of hurting them, which is more likely when you aren’t experienced using restraints. Oh and don't forget the nipples, they are a very sensitive area to inevestigate. View our nipple play accessoires collection here >>

Safety First 

Using ropes and other restraints is certainly a thrilling experience but only when done safely. It is easier for beginners to get injured from applying too tight a rope or not using the right type of knot, so always take safety precautions before getting started. A good rule of thumb for tying with rope is there should be enough room to fit two fingers when under the rope after it’s applied. It’s a good idea to always have scissors on standby just in case someone ties the restraints too tight however.

Be Aware of Tingling 

Whoever is being tied up during bondage needs to be aware of a tingling sensation in their body, which is a sign that restraints are too tight or that the position is quite uncomfortable. It mostly occurs in the hands, feet, fingers and toes, so keep an eye out for it and tell your partner. You should be okay for around 20-minutes but after that it’s probably a good time to change positions, loosen the restraints, or even switch roles. Rope should never be too tight - you want enough space to wriggle and struggle, with the rope able to move.

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